“We Eloped!” — Eloping is the new go-to dream wedding! More and more people are doing it, and here is why! But first what is eloping, and why is everyone doing it?
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What is Eloping?
What even is eloping? When you google it, it doesn’t sound that great, let alone romantic…
Run away secretly in order to get married, especially without parental consent.Google Definition
REST ASSURED, eloping is way better than it sounds! And you don’t technically have to run away in secret.
Eloping for my husband and I was to have something more intimate and private. We didn’t want a big show, and wanted it to just be the two of us. Other married couples elope to have a destination wedding, or to get married without all the pressure and then have a formal wedding at a later time.
To elope is not a bad thing! I believe it’s even more romantic than a traditional wedding.
Pros of Eloping
Right off the bat the following came to mind why eloping is the way to go! And these aren’t in any particular order either.
- Not so embarrassing when reading vows or kissing your new life partner
- Less drama
- Less stress
- Very little to plan
- Money saver
- Quality time with your spouse
- Get married anywhere you want
A few that I do want to elaborate more into…
Affordability / Money Saver
DUH! It’s only you two! You only have to pay for yourselves!
With the photographer, make sure to ask about their rates and mention how it’ll only be the two of you! She/he will probably give you a better deal since it’s only two people compared to a whole group/venue.
The flowers will be cheaper because you don’t have to buy some for the table decorations, brides maids, and wherever else you need flowers. Just get a bouquet, a boutonnière, a flower crown and call it good!
You won’t have to worry about catering, and the catering company charging per head. Go to a fancy restaurant instead, I’m positive that’ll still be cheaper!
And let’s not forget the venue (A.K.A. The black hole of your wallet!) You won’t need to pay for a venue (wahoo!!). For our pictures we did pay a fee to get them taken inside the Los Angeles Arboretum, and then the admission fee. But when we eloped, the location was free. If we REALLY wanted to, we could have taken the pictures at a park or somewhere else that would have been free as well.
Hear that? FREEEE! Did you ever think you can hear that when talking about a wedding?!
Think about it, with all this saving you can put that money towards the wedding dress of your dreams, or your honeymoon, or just simply save it for another occasion.
Now just because you are saving money, that does not make your special day any less special. Trust me! The day we eloped/got married, was literally the happiest day of my life.
We got married in Hollywood Hills with the most amazing view (again, free!). It was just the officiant, the witness, Alex, and myself. We were in the shade, so it was nice and cool with this amazing view behind us.
I remember looking at Alex, and sharing our vows with each other (or the vows the officiant has you repeat… we shared our own personal vows to each other later). Seeing him look at me and hearing his promise to be mine till death do us part was BEYOND romantic. This is the man I love and I was standing with him in that moment. That’s all that matters.
Honestly, you will be so wrapped up with the person standing in front of you that you aren’t going to care whose around. In that moment, I even forgot about the officiant!!
Eloping is private, and an intimate moment between you and your partner that no one else will understand. You two vs. the world.
Easy / Less Drama and Stress
Less people + less planning + Less drama = Less stress
Doesn’t this sound great! And it’s easy!
With eloping you do not have to plan for other people, you don’t have to confirm dates with other people to make sure they can attend, you won’t have to go out shopping for wedding decorations or hunt down the best cake decorator in town! You don’t have to do much of anything!
Truly, you don’t even have to wear a wedding dress or a suit! You can wear whatever you want! Eloping is easy! Grab your marriage license and head off to the court house.
Related: How to Elope: Your Ultimate Guide to the Perfect Elopement, What You Need To Do and What Needs To Get Done
Cons of Eloping
Of course there’s always a bit of bad with the good. Some cons of eloping are…
- Family drama, some feelings may be hurt
- Your parents won’t give you away
- Not that many people, if anyone, will be there
- Won’t be a traditional wedding
- Reception may have to be at a later time
One major one I do want to breakdown more…
I want to point out family and your parents, and not having them there as a very big Con. It was the hardest part of the decision for us.
Many people are very close to their families, and not having them on this special day can be tough. It’s a very emotional and life-changing moment. With eloping, you parents may not be able to give you away, or be there to share those tears of joy with you.
It’s not the end of the world, and it isn’t going to make that day any less intimate. It just can be a tough decision, and may create tension/drama with family members, especially to those who strongly believe in and love a traditional wedding.
Looking back, I do wish my parents knew more or were involved a bit more. It was my choice to keep them out of the loop. It would have been nice for my mom to help me pick out my dress, or for my parents to give me some kind of advice, etc.. But that was MY choice to not share it with them.
I still am happy with the decision of eloping, and I would do it again in a heartbeat!
But before you and your partner decide to elope, make sure to consider your family. You may want to think the worst of them, but think about how they may want to be involved in other ways. Big or small. For my mom, she would have loved to help pick out my dress. For my brother, he would have loved to be there of course, but he just wished to be more in the loop.
Talk it over, and make sure it isn’t something you’ll regret.
Why is Everyone Eloping?
So why is everyone eloping? Because it is the most intimate and romantic moment you will have between you and your partner! Plus, it’s affordable!
You can get married anywhere in the world, and have an experience of a lifetime! Can you imagine those pictures and the stories you can tell?!
Why We Eloped
Alex and I eloped because we wanted something very small, private, and we heard how intimate eloping can be. We wanted to spend more money on our vacation instead the wedding itself.
After we got engaged, we debated for awhile if eloping was the way to go.
It came down to affordability, and wanting something that wasn’t so traditional. So we did a rustic look kind of wedding, with Alex’s maroon suit.
We took pictures in the morning, went to go get married, and then we went on a Malibu Wine Safari! On the safari/wine tour, we got to feed lamas and zebras, pet donkeys, and visit all these other exotic animals! I’ve recommended this place to a client, and they loved it as well! It’s honestly one of my favorite places in SoCal, and we were so lucky to spend our special day in this special place.
After the wine tour, we ate dinner at a restaurant we’ve been dying to try, Osteria Mozza.
Eloping gave Alex and I the chance to do what WE wanted to do, without any of the pressure or family drama.
Why You Too, Should Consider Eloping
What other reasons do you need!?
Check out our other articles regarding elopement to get you started!
- 3 Incredibly Easy Ways on How to Save Money On Your Wedding
- How to Elope: Your Ultimate Guide to the Perfect Elopement, What You Need To Do and What Needs To Get Done
- 20 Things to Consider Before Saying “I Do”
- 6 Reasons Why Cancun is an Overrated Travel / Honeymoon Destination
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